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7 tips for effective communication in relationships


1. HAVE A CALM AURA
A calm aura is needed while communicating with your partner; this is a very important trait that’s needed in every relationship. Some people have a harsh way of communicating without even knowing, and this character can be perceived in a very different way by your partner. “You are crazy” are three words that can either make one laugh or make one angry; it just depends on how it is said. Communicating calmly would always be a plus for your relationship.
2. QUIT SHYNESS
Shyness is a weakness when it comes to communication and relationships. Shyness would make you not say what you have to say, and sometimes all you have to say is what your partner needs to know. Shyness wouldn’t help you bear out your mind and that would haunt you later on; feel free to bear your mind but don’t forget the first tip.
3. SHUN THE DEFENSIVE NATURE
A defensive nature is also not needed in communication; a defensive nature would make you not take responsibility for your faults and actions instead you would keep blaming one person to another. This would ruin your relationship and it would make you and your partner not find a way to deal with issues.
4. TRY TO AVOID CRITICISM
If possible, it’s best to avoid criticisms when communicating with your partner. You can’t effectively pass on a message when you centre more on criticising your partner all the time. There are better ways of passing a message other than direct criticism; harsh criticisms can kill your partner’s belief in that relationship.
5. REACT SLOWLY WHEN ANGRY
Anger comes with a surge and if you use that surge of anger while communicating with your partner, you might end up saying things you don’t actually mean. React slowly when you are angry or even wait for the anger to subside before you air your opinion to your partner. Anger and communication would never have a synergy; anger would always make communication ineffective.
6. BE ATTENTIVE
There is nothing like an attentive partner; when you always have that listening ear to what your partner has to say, he/she would always want to confide in you the more. It doesn’t just end by being attentive; responding as well makes communication in relationship more effective. You should be able to listen and respond to your partner’s emotions and feeling.
7. SARCASM AIMED AT MOCKERY SHOULD BE AVOIDED
Teasing your partner isn’t bad, as far as it’s a joke that’s intended to make you both laugh; though you should be aware of how you tease because your partner might not perceive it same way as you.
However, that’s a different scenario from sarcasm that’s aimed at inducing mockery. Showing disrespect, sneering, eye-rolling and the rest is also not a good habit during communication; all those should be avoided.
Sometimes, a lack of proper communication is what harms and kills most relationships; mastering how to effectively communicate with your partner would help your relationship in more ways than you can imagine.

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