“People often say, marry someone who makes you happy. And yes, happiness is important. But happiness alone cannot sustain a marriage, because life is not always sunshine. There will be seasons of loss, of uncertainty, of financial struggles, of sickness, of disappointments.
That’s why I believe the real wisdom is this: marry someone you can suffer with.
Marry someone who won’t run away when things get hard. Someone who will sit with you in the hospital when the night feels endless, or remind you to hope when your dreams seem delayed. Someone who will eat ugali and sukuma with you when times are tough, but also celebrate with you when abundance comes.
True love is not just about laughing together—it is about crying together and still choosing each other the next morning. It is about carrying one another when one is too weak to walk. It is about holding the rope together when life pulls in the opposite direction.
If you marry only for beauty, it will fade. If you marry only for money, it can vanish. If you marry only for excitement, it will cool. But if you marry for endurance, loyalty, and shared strength, then even in suffering, you will never be alone.
So my advice is simple: marry someone you can suffer with. Because if you can endure the hardest days together, you will surely enjoy the best days together.”
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