You’ve probably heard it before that
you should look very well before you
get into a relationship or marriage
because if you don’t, you just may
end up settling with the wrong
person. Well, I have to say I agree
with this statement or believe very
much, however, as much as you have
that mindset, it’s also important to
know that there isn’t one person
who is perfect.
I am not saying you should settle for
less than you want in your ideal
man, however, do not live in a
fantasy world where you think that
there are people without a flaw
because you’ll just end up getting
disappointed.
What you do not see in the one man,
you’ll likely see in another. It’s
possible that this man doesn’t drink
or smoke or womanise, but could be
a woman beater or have one nasty
attitude or habit. It is also possible
he isn’t a woman beater, but he is
secretive or puts work ahead of his
loved ones. The same also applies to
women – she may not cheat or lie,
but she is probably an alcoholic or
has some dark part to her you
wouldn’t know about until it’s late.
But even then, do not run away
from the reality you face, embrace it
because if you run, you’ll probably
run into worse arms or someone
with similar issues.
No one is perfect, what you should
do is look for a man or woman
whose flaws you can deal with, and
be with them, while trying to help
them be better as a person.
Marriage and dating is never rosy
all through. You’ll have issues, and
you’ll fight because you’re not dating
a flawless god, you just hold on, and
try to make your relationship keep
working.
Having this sort of mindset is what
will help you go into a very happy
and stable relationship. It isn’t
perfect anywhere; not even in the
relationship of that friend or
relative that inspired you to set your
high standards.
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