By Dr Paul Bundi Human beings are endowed with remarkable resilience, which can only be broken when they choose to give up. Says Viktor Frankl in his seminal book, Man's Search for Meaning; ''it is a peculiarity of man that he can only live by looking to the future-sub specie aeternitatis. And this is his salvation in thd most difficult moments of his existence, although he sometimes has to force his mind to the task.'' Man's life is primarily driven by the desire for future, the unshakable belief that the future holds promise. We invariably cease to live when we think we have hit a dead end, or that there's nothing more to be had by living. Theoretically, there is no limit to man's achievement, and that is what drives men to wake up and strive day after day. The opposite is spiritual, psychological death, which manifests way ahead of physical death. Lesson? Losing today doesn't mean losing always. You can lose 10 times and win the 11th time. Or, you
Many couples are divorced before their wedding day because most things that leads to divorce doesn't happen overnight, it has always been there before marriage but we overlook a lot of obstacles because we're blindly in love. Do not be fooled into believing that marriage will automatically change a person's character. The only thing a wedding will change is your relationship status from single to married. It's hard to change a person who is never ready to change. If you're not happy together while dating, there's a 75% chances that you won't be happy after the marriage. If you have to fight or beg for attention before the marriage, don't expect an overnight affection after the marriage. Of course many people can pretend to be what they are not, but there's a limit to how much a person can pretend if you're paying attention and you're honest with yourself.
Endurance and Ignorance are never the same. Endurance is staying and believing that a person who does not have today may have tomorrow, while Ignorance is believing that a person who treats you like nothing before marriage will automatically starts treating you like SOMETHING after the marriage.
Never ever marry to fix a problem. Fix your problem before you get married. Be prayerful but be sensible. Never ignore a bold handwriting on the wall. Never throw an obvious problem under the carpet in your relationship if you truly want peace of mind.
A temperamental partner who gets angry and slaps you at any slight argument while dating, might ends up beating the daylight out of you after the wedding. A material woman who only loves you for what you have may never stay for long when the road is rough. Be very careful who you choose as spouse, your happiness and sadness depends it.
When the foundation is poor, collapse is inevitable. Before Saying I Do Make Sure You Know What You Are Doing.
Marriage is not a one time event. It's a life time.
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