It proves nothing convincing people against their own opinion through arguments especially biased people. Arguments actually gets people no where but ruins friendship.
You may succeed in satisfying your ego with that thought that you won the argument but have ruined another's ego.
Just communicate or listen. It is irrelevant to argue.
This is the deal. I recently learnt the above from this book "How to win Friends and create influence" by Dale Carnegie and trust me, he nailed it.
I have been a victim of this.
You know that feeling when you are trying so hard to defend your own views and earn your respect? All those feelings are just selfish. That feeling that only satisfies your ego but ruins another.
But what is the point of even arguing when you can just communicate or better still, listen?
By Strive Masiyiwa A few weeks ago I went to the doctor. I will tell you what he said about my health at the end, but first read this: Twenty years ago, I arranged to meet a well-known British international businessman who invested a lot in Africa at the time. We agreed to meet for dinner at a leading hotel in London. After a good meeting, we started to walk out of the restaurant when he suddenly collapsed in the lobby. There was total pandemonium as they rushed to get medical assistance. Being London, an ambulance arrived in minutes. I jumped in the back with him as paramedics wrestled to keep him alive. He had had a heart attack and had to have triple bypass heart surgery. Sadly he died a few weeks later. He hadn't been sick and his sudden death surprised everyone. And yet as I reflected on it, and later discussed it with a doctor friend who knew him, I realized he was very laid back about his health despite having a hectic business life. Even during our dinner...
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