By Dr Paul Bundi Human beings are endowed with remarkable resilience, which can only be broken when they choose to give up. Says Viktor Frankl in his seminal book, Man's Search for Meaning; ''it is a peculiarity of man that he can only live by looking to the future-sub specie aeternitatis. And this is his salvation in thd most difficult moments of his existence, although he sometimes has to force his mind to the task.'' Man's life is primarily driven by the desire for future, the unshakable belief that the future holds promise. We invariably cease to live when we think we have hit a dead end, or that there's nothing more to be had by living. Theoretically, there is no limit to man's achievement, and that is what drives men to wake up and strive day after day. The opposite is spiritual, psychological death, which manifests way ahead of physical death. Lesson? Losing today doesn't mean losing always. You can lose 10 times and win the 11th time. Or, you
I’m told soon some men will be dumped and why? Because they come too fast. I’m blessed and I’m here to help all you who are one minute men. Naturally for most adult males there is a need to prolong love making – how else will you perform? Welll, in this article there are a number of techniques listed that can be used by men and in conjunction with their women for a man to learn how to control his ejaculation.Read on; The first step is to become aware of your own levels of arousal Experiment, take your time and give yourself a very real self-loving exploration, not just a quick masturbatory release. Notice how your penis moves through distinct changes before orgasm and ejaculation – it’s not just soft and then hard and spewing. There are four defined stages of erection: • Lengthening and filling • Swelling • Full erection • Rigid erection The fourth stage, rigid erection, characterized by a penis that’s very stiff (a boner) and very hot, signifies ejaculation is close at hand. Through attentive self-arousal and the playful hands of your sweetheart you can learn how to stay for longer periods of time in the exciting, but less explosive, third stage of firm erection. When you feel yourself moving into the hard, hot level stop stimulation, relax and pay attention to your breathing. Breathe slowly and deeply. Tell your partner when you are about to have an orgasm. At this point the partner can slow down or stop to prevent a premature ejaculation. Breath Conscious breathing is a key for extended lovemaking. Rapid breathing excites and arouses you. Slow, controlled breathing, way down into your belly, calms you and helps delay ejaculation. Focusing on your breath takes your attention away from your genitals. Synchronizing your breathing rhythm with your partner’s strengthens your connection with each other. Perineum Pressure Pressing on the perineum, a spot midway between your scrotum and your anus, will help to stop ejaculation because this spot reaches through to the prostate gland. It is the prostate that contracts and expands during orgasm and then expels the ejaculation fluid. Ask your partner to apply this loving pressure for you. Testes Tug When a man nears orgasm his scrotum rises up closer to his body. You can delay ejaculation by gently pulling your testes down and away from your body. Your partner can also do this for you. Penis Tip Squeeze Squeezing your penis just below the head or glans can help to stop oncoming ejaculation. It necessitates withdrawing completely from your partner during intercourse, but is an excellent way to begin practice on your own with masturbation. PC (pubococcygeous) Muscle Contraction This is simply squeezing your pelvic floor muscles, around the scrotum, penis and anus as you feel ejaculation approaching. An easy way to practice this is to interrupt your urine stream when you are going to the bathroom. Passion Pump This technique, which combines squeezing the PC muscles, rolling your eyes upward, touching your tongue to the roof of your mouth, and visualizing your sexual energy flowing up through your body while you practice controlled deep breathing is one of the most effective ways of delaying ejaculation. It’s a Taoist sexual kung fu technique that has the added benefit of helping you circulate your sexual energy through your body rather than having it remain hot and heavy in your genital region. Thrusting Technique A superb thrusting technique that brings great pleasure to a woman and helps a man to last is a combination of deep and shallow thrusts. By shallow thrusts I mean your penis only enters 1½ to 2 inches inside your partner. These first couple of inches are the most sensitive part of a woman’s vagina. Deep thrusts mean your penis enters as fully as you can. In this technique you combine a series of nine fairly quick shallow thrusts with one slow deep one. The shallow thrusts stimulate your partner’s most sensitive vaginal tissues and at the same time create a vacuum effect that makes her ache for the deep thrust to come. And because most of your thrusts are shallow ones, exciting only the first few inches of your penis, you’re able to rock on for much longer! Foreplay Use foreplay to your advantage, stimulating your partner first. If you want to have quite a bit of intercourse before ejaculation, it’s best not to allow yourself(male) to be the one getting the attention! Put the condom on yourself This improves the chance of you not getting too turned on beforehand. Tackle relationship issues Be sure that your head and heart are in the mood for sex as well as your body. If you’re unhappy about something with your partner then sort it out first.
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