By Dr Paul Bundi Human beings are endowed with remarkable resilience, which can only be broken when they choose to give up. Says Viktor Frankl in his seminal book, Man's Search for Meaning; ''it is a peculiarity of man that he can only live by looking to the future-sub specie aeternitatis. And this is his salvation in thd most difficult moments of his existence, although he sometimes has to force his mind to the task.'' Man's life is primarily driven by the desire for future, the unshakable belief that the future holds promise. We invariably cease to live when we think we have hit a dead end, or that there's nothing more to be had by living. Theoretically, there is no limit to man's achievement, and that is what drives men to wake up and strive day after day. The opposite is spiritual, psychological death, which manifests way ahead of physical death. Lesson? Losing today doesn't mean losing always. You can lose 10 times and win the 11th time. Or, you...
When I am alone, I get aroused and get an erection and sometimes masturbate. But when I am with my girlfriend I feel nothing. I can arouse her until she wants sex but I don’t get an erection. What is wrong with me?somebody asked Well, this is a tough one, but mostly because I fear I have to point you in a direction that might shock you. Your equipment works perfectly well when you are on your own which tells me that you do not have a physiological problem. The issues pop up when we add a woman to the mix. You chose your girlfriend because you like her and you find her attractive so I am baffled. Might you, perhaps be afraid to defile her with your sexual urges? In our sex education, many of us are taught that “good girls don’t”. It’s the bad girls who have premarital sex and the bad girls who want sex; meanwhile good girls wait for marriage and even then they only have sex to please their husbands, not because they want it. This thought pattern, termed “the madonna/whore complex” has damaged many a marriage bed when men find that they cannot screw their wives, rather they have to “make love” to them in a well-mannered way that does not offend. Good manners and extreme politeness does not make a sex life great, so these men save their “real desire” for whores and loose women. If this sounds like what is going on in your mind, I suggest you seek counsellor who can help you work through this issue. It’s not uncommon and you may find that you resolve it relatively quickly. If you aren’t turned on by women, at all, then you may be a homosexual. It is time to ask yourself some hard questions and you will find that a counsellor dedicated to listening can also help you come to your own conclusions at your own pace. I wish you all the best in this journey of self-inquiry and remember that there is nothing wrong with youif you do indeed turn out to be gay.source a<"http://lovematters.co.ke/news/i-feel-nothing-my-girlfriend/>
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