When I am alone, I get aroused and get an erection and sometimes masturbate. But when I am with my girlfriend I feel nothing. I can arouse her until she wants sex but I don’t get an erection. What is wrong with me?somebody asked Well, this is a tough one, but mostly because I fear I have to point you in a direction that might shock you. Your equipment works perfectly well when you are on your own which tells me that you do not have a physiological problem. The issues pop up when we add a woman to the mix. You chose your girlfriend because you like her and you find her attractive so I am baffled. Might you, perhaps be afraid to defile her with your sexual urges? In our sex education, many of us are taught that “good girls don’t”. It’s the bad girls who have premarital sex and the bad girls who want sex; meanwhile good girls wait for marriage and even then they only have sex to please their husbands, not because they want it. This thought pattern, termed “the madonna/whore complex” has damaged many a marriage bed when men find that they cannot screw their wives, rather they have to “make love” to them in a well-mannered way that does not offend. Good manners and extreme politeness does not make a sex life great, so these men save their “real desire” for whores and loose women. If this sounds like what is going on in your mind, I suggest you seek counsellor who can help you work through this issue. It’s not uncommon and you may find that you resolve it relatively quickly. If you aren’t turned on by women, at all, then you may be a homosexual. It is time to ask yourself some hard questions and you will find that a counsellor dedicated to listening can also help you come to your own conclusions at your own pace. I wish you all the best in this journey of self-inquiry and remember that there is nothing wrong with youif you do indeed turn out to be gay.source a<"http://lovematters.co.ke/news/i-feel-nothing-my-girlfriend/>
By Strive Masiyiwa A few weeks ago I went to the doctor. I will tell you what he said about my health at the end, but first read this: Twenty years ago, I arranged to meet a well-known British international businessman who invested a lot in Africa at the time. We agreed to meet for dinner at a leading hotel in London. After a good meeting, we started to walk out of the restaurant when he suddenly collapsed in the lobby. There was total pandemonium as they rushed to get medical assistance. Being London, an ambulance arrived in minutes. I jumped in the back with him as paramedics wrestled to keep him alive. He had had a heart attack and had to have triple bypass heart surgery. Sadly he died a few weeks later. He hadn't been sick and his sudden death surprised everyone. And yet as I reflected on it, and later discussed it with a doctor friend who knew him, I realized he was very laid back about his health despite having a hectic business life. Even during our dinner...
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