How to Stop Masturbation

Masturbation is sometimes called “self love” or “solo-sex”. It is a normal and healthy activity, and indeed is the way most adolescents discover what makes them feel good before they embark on an adult sexual relationship. Masturbation plays a big role in a normal sex life. Some of us discover it as children because it starts to feel so good between our legs. Others are shown by our friends.We continue to masturbate because it feels so good. It gets us ready for mature sexual relationships when we reach adulthood, and it helps us take care of those raging hormonal urges and surges when we are teenagers. Here are SIDE EFFECTS OF MASTURBATION • Lower back pain• Thinning hair / Hair Loss• Soft / Weak Erection• Premature Ejaculation• Eye floaters or fuzzy vision• Groin / Testicular Pain• Pain or cramp in the pelvic cavity or/and tail bone• Fatigue – Feeling tired all the time So how can one stop Masturbation addiction? Here’s how; Decide whether your masturbation is a cause for concern Masturbation has become an obsession when it interferes with your daily routine and your relationships. If you find yourself masturbating instead of spending time on more important things on a daily basis (and you are no longer a teenage boy or girl!), then it might be time to break the cycle of behavior you are in. Isolate the cause There is a reason or reasons you masturbate excessively, and you must find out why. If you concentrate on just stopping masturbation then you will just return to your addiction after a short period of success. So, why do you masturbate? It could be because you are bored, lonely, hurt, stressed, or it could be because of pains from the past. You’re going to have to get yourself in a relaxed state conducive to productive thought to really find out why you turn to masturbation. What are you trying to escape? Avoid focusing on symptoms. Saying you masturbate because it feels good is not the real reason you masturbate excessively. Dig deep into your feelings. If you find this part difficult you may need therapy to help you discover feelings you are not seeing clearly right now. Deal with your feelings Dealing with feelings correctly is a skill and may be a skill you have forgotten or need to learn. Feelings are the result of thoughts. How we interpret the world and ourselves in our minds determines how we feel. We decide how we feel about things. If you masturbate because you feel bored then it is because you decided to feel bored. Nobody made you feel bored. You did. Change the thought patterns that are leading to excessive masturbation You can no longer see masturbation as a solution to your boredom or loneliness. The more you learn to enjoy your everyday life the less you will want to turn to masturbation. Spend some time each day, perhaps in the morning, visualizing a new you A more confident, sociable, outgoing you. It’s important that you start reprogramming your brain on a daily basis. It may seem awkward at first but if you persist, you will become more comfortable with your new self-image. Change your habits You cannot overcome a masturbation addiction so long as you are spending a lot of time alone in your bedroom viewing pornography. Get out and meet people. Form healthy relationships and perhaps find another outlet for your sexual energy. Have an emergency way out – When the wave of temptation comes you need to have a pre-planned emergency way out Many people have found that snapping a rubber band on their wrist helps break the automatic thought chain that leads to masturbation. Of course you don’t want to hurt yourself, just have something similar to get your mind off masturbating. Tips • If you have the tendency to masturbate at night, in bed, do some sit ups or other exercise before you get into bed so you burn some of your extra energy • Never give up hope you can and will overcome the addiction even if you need help • It is all in your brain, you can always replace your thoughts with wholesome ones if you really want to. You have the power to stop it. • If you have the tendency to masturbate looking at porn on computers, try moving your computer into a room where others can see you. • Consider installing porn-blocking software on your computer. Of course you will know the password to bypass the blocking function, but just having it pop up will give you a chance to reconsider and move to another activity instead of masturbating. Warnings • Do not think of masturbation as evil, wicked or damaging to your health. It is not. You will not go blind, grow hair on your palms, or be unable to have a healthy sex life • Do not aim NEVER to masturbate again – aim to have it as part of your life, but a small part which, while it is comforting, does not interfere with relationships with others